FIRST IMPRESSIONS: ON A DATE! 

1.         SMILE – A friendly face is more pleasant than a stale one.

2.         A HUG or SHAKE HANDS  

Be alert and quick to respond to the body language both at the beginning and end of the date.  If the date offers to shake hands at the beginning, then you already are able to gauge that this person has tendency is to be more formal and doesn’t go around hugging people.  If the person offers a slight hug on the side, then you are able to gauge that formal yet able to let their guard down a slight bit on this date.  Reason being that both of you are not a complete strangers because there has been correspondence but date is still in its infancy stage.

Remember, when you shake hands or hug, the receiver is trying to make sense of you.  If you have sweaty hands, this would influence more of a negative perception of you. The warmth of your hands or hugs informs a lot about a person

3.         MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT

                         If you don’t many people feel that you could be lying or being elusive

     If you are wearing dark glasses, take them off and have direct eye contact.

4.         CONSIDER EACH DATE AS AN OPPORTUNITY

            Be enthusiastic about meeting the other person, they could be your life long mate.

5.         SHUT THE DOOR ON YOUR TROUBLES

            Do not discuss family or financial problems.

            Think about how this person will be able to bring the positive aspect to your life.

6.         LISTEN TO YOUR DATE

            Be sure you understood their questions and consider your answers carefully.

7.         BE ATTENTIVE TO BODY LANGUAGE

            -Avoid raising barriers

            -Don’t cross your arms across your chest.

            -Don’t place anything on the table between you and the date.

            -Avoid the appearance of withdrawing from the date

 8.        BE CALM AND POISED – avoid nervous habits

            -Don’t cross your legs and keep the free foot moving.

            -Don’t play with your fingernails.

            -Keep your hands off your moustache, beard, and/or hair

            -Don’t play with jewellery

            -Don’t tap your finger on the chair arm or table

            -Sit up straight, don’t slouch

            - Avoid aggravating speech habits such as ``eh, ummm, you know what I mean"

 9.         DON’T CHEW GUM- EVER!

             -The date might thing you’re enjoying the piece of gum more than their company.

 10.       DON`T SIT DOWN UNTIL YOUR DATE HAS SAT DOWN FIRST!

            -Don’t sit across the room.

            -Sit close to your date (not on top) and then of course face your date.

            -Don’t lean on the table

Six Things You Should Know About Online Dating

With so many online dating service websites, it’s hard to know which one is worth registering for.  Questions like:

1.    Should I pay for online dating?

2.    Should I register on a free online dating service?

3.    Is a paid dating site better for meeting someone compared to a free dating site?

4.    Are there more real profiles on paid dating sites than free dating sites?

5.    What if I paid for a dating site and I want to get my money back?

6.    How come my credit card is being charged even though I had cancelled my membership?

These are all legitimate questions and here are the answers to these six questions for online dating sites.

1.    Paying for an online dating experience does not guarantee that you will find someone.  There are many paid dating sites that claim scientifically proven matches which is a bunch of hogwash.  You can not scientifically prove that two people will match otherwise there would be so many more happy marriages.  You can have similar interests, believes, value systems, religions and cultural influences but these similar characteristics and attributes does not guarantee that both individuals will be lifelong mates.

Go ahead and pay for an online dating service to get the experience of saying ‘been there done that’ and then tell others. Make sure you share your positive experiences and negative experiences.

2.    I highly recommend that you register on free online dating services.  Register on several and check out the different profiles.  The reason I recommend that you register on several sites is because one, it’s Free, and second you have a chance of expanding your visibility to users on other sites.  Therefore by simply increasing your profiles on other free sites you have increased your chances of meeting someone.

3.    Paid sites are not better than Free sites.  Free sites are highly sophisticated ‘machines’ and offer just as many people looking for the same thing.  What paid sites offer you that free sites don’t, is that more serious people have paid money to get serious responses.  When you have people putting their own hard earned money into a service or product they are serious buyers and want the investment from their money.  Free sites can never offer you this!

4.    Yes, there are more real profiles on paid sites than free sites.  The very nature of people putting their money for a service will more likely create more honest profiles.  I did not say completely honest, but will be more honest.  Free sites on the hand offer less incentive for people being completely honest unless they are seriously looking for people to meet.  Some people post fake profiles on free sites because it is free, heck, nothing to lose!

5.    Getting your money back from a paid site is difficult. Remember, most likely the service that you are paying for is in US currency and because these companies are located in some obscure place in the world, simply calling them and getting an immediate response is next to impossible.  There might be a site there that does give a refund but in most cases just accept it as a loss and learn from your experience. 

6.    Be careful when you are signing up, in the terms of service or payment, in very small letters they might bill you monthly until you cancel the payment or the company has received a cancellation notice from you.  In some cases, I have heard horror stories where they keep billing you in small amounts so you don’t notice and when you do try to contact them, it is extremely difficult.  Please be careful and read the fine print before sharing your credit card number.

Almost everyone here knows someone who has used an online dating service at one point when trying to meeting someone. Some people have horror stories but many have great stories.  I have personal friends that have used online dating and are now married.  My friends would not have met each other due to their distance apart or because their lives were just so different but with online dating their dreams have come to reality.

Struggling with so many commitments in our life, we tend to forget one important priority which is our self.  Always making excuses and rationalizing on why it’s so difficult to meet someone special and have a happy long term companionship.  We see months turn out to be years, and then wonder where all the time went.  Unfortunately, life is not a dress rehearsal and sooner or later we begin taking calculated risks while the same time learning from our experiences. 

Achieving a balance in our life and making the use of this little time has never become easier with the introduction of online dating to have that special companionship. 

Meeting singles for dating has never become easier.  Online dating sites are a feasible alternative for connecting and meeting people.  Just by creating an online profile is more than enough to begin meeting singles for dating.     

The secret to meeting exciting and interesting people who have various accomplishments is to create a Profile of Yourself in a dating site.  By understanding this process of creating a great profile and uploading pictures enables you to have more success in meeting your match.  In fact, by having pictures of yourself to share with others increases you success rate by over 300% in comparison to someone who has not uploaded any pictures.

There is little doubt that when a personal dating profile has been written with thought, that the interests received in return are generally of ‘higher quality’.  A proper dating profile is of no doubt the door way to your future in meeting the person of choice.  If you are not at all bothered about the quality of your profile on a dating site, then you should change this thought to receive better results. At the end of the day the profile determines your success rate in finding your life partner.  A profile that is not well thought out or not well written will create an image that does not represent you and may give wrong impression.  This in turn may result in fewer responses and decrease the likelihood of meeting a perfect match.

Additionally, having really great pictures when posting and sharing with other users definitely increases your response rate.  Naturally, when you or another user searches Profiles for dating, our eyes tend to wander towards the profiles with pictures.  This is a natural human phenomenon where most of us like to see descriptions with pictures.

Spend time when preparing and describing yourself on an online dating site. Carefully construct your profile as if you are creating a resume or marketing document.  Never leave an impression where someone reading the profile creates a wrong judgment of you. The profile you create influences the amount of responses that you receive so never ignore such an important step towards meeting that someone special.  Here are some tips to creating a well written profile.  Never exaggerate about yourself, this can come across as being arrogant.  Be compact and highlight specifics that makes you appealing compared to the rest of other profiles on a dating site. 

Another important note that demands a special mention while preparing your profile is to make it attractive. Attractive in the sense that it should have an appeal where the person would like to make contact, have a sense of humour and perhaps share a funny story.  Use catch phrases and words such as: 'great' or 'excellent' instead of 'good'.  These are small hints to create a profile that buzzes with enthusiasm and that sets you apart from the rest.

100% Free dating sites are a great way to begin your start for online dating.  www.oceansofpeople.com is a new online dating site that has been launched to give you a chance to meet friends, network or have someone as a long-term partner.  This free dating site has forums for you to discuss on various topics, has a link where you can look for a date on a Friday or Saturday night or even find out where most people are heading on the weekends in your town.

The free dating site, www.oceansofpeople.com is not just another dating site but also another way of spending your evening chatting or talking to people from around the world.  This is a serious site, where users are looking for serious friendships or relationships.  If you get a chance to visit this site, take a look because you won’t regret it.  There are many dating sites, some let you register and search for free but when you want to contact someone, you then have to pay.  The site www.oceansofpeople.com does not ask users for a fee and in fact you can setup a profile and leave it to log back on without ever having to worry about your membership becoming expired.

Here are some testimonials from the site.  “I became a member on the site when it first started.  I like the fact that there is no fee to the site.  Since then, I’ve met some people and had really good dates.  I’m now seriously dating a person who makes me laugh and is willing to share our lives together”.

Here is another recent testimonial from a user.

“At first I thought oceansofpeople would be just another site, but I find the way the site has been setup to be simply and easy to navigate.  I’ve had really good responses to my profile and having been dating someone for some time now.  I’m happy that create a profile on this site otherwise who knows where I would be”.

The site www.oceansofpeople.com can only be successful when the users are satisfied with the service.  A strong recommendation is that a new member creates several profiles on free dating sites to increase their profile exposure to other users.  Since more and more free dating sites are being created, this bodes well for people that are looking for different types of relationships.  Free dating sites provide a nice way to meet people without having to go out and spend money for entertainment.  The cost of using this service is free and the only time you have to spend money is when you go out for coffee to meet.

As people are becoming smarter with their time and money, these free dating sites are great for solving both of these things.  With millions of single people in Canada, the United States and around the world, online dating is growing by leaps and bounds.  As mentioned above with the testimonials, there are lots of positive experiences and millions of people are getting into relationships and becoming married.

So don’t take too much time to decide if you should or not become a member on a Free Dating Site, there is nothing to lose and you have everything to gain.  Meeting someone and changing your life to have someone special or maybe increase your friendship circle is exciting.  Remember that these free dating websites do not have revenue coming in through users, so they have minimal or no money to continue providing free services.  The best thing that you can do to support sites like www.oceansofpeople.com is to register and become a member.  Each unique user brings other more users and because there is no cost for a service, you have nothing to lose.  Having support from readers like you makes a huge difference to sites like oceansofpeople.  If you are able to take 5 minutes and create an account on Free dating sites really helps these site owners.  These site owners are usually local people who have decided to create a free dating site to complete against these mega monster sites who seem to be over charging and gouging to use their services.  These local site owners usually have very limited budgets, a lot of patience and time to slowly improve their service over months and years.  A site like www.oceansofpeople.com is a 100% Free online dating site to provide services to you and is looking to continue providing this service for free.  Support from people like you to register and become a member ensures that this online dating site continues to operate for year to come.

Struggling with so many commitments in our life, we tend to forget one important priority which is our self.  Always making excuses and rationalizing on why it’s so difficult to meet someone special and have a happy long term companionship.  We see months turn out to be years, and then wonder where all the time went.  Unfortunately, life is not a dress rehearsal and sooner or later we begin taking calculated risks while the same time learning from our experiences. 

Achieving a balance in our life and making the use of this little time has never become easier with the introduction of online dating to have that special companionship. 

Meeting singles for dating has never become easier.  Online dating sites are a feasible alternative for connecting and meeting people.  Just by creating an online profile is more than enough to begin meeting singles for dating.      

The secret to meeting exciting and interesting people who have various accomplishments is to create a Profile of Yourself in a dating site.  By understanding this process of creating a great profile and uploading pictures enables you to have more success in meeting your match.  In fact, by having pictures of yourself to share with others increases you success rate by over 300% in comparison to someone who has not uploaded any pictures.

There is little doubt that when a personal dating profile has been written with thought, that the interests received in return are generally of ‘higher quality’.  A proper dating profile is of no doubt the door way to your future in meeting the person of choice.  If you are not at all bothered about the quality of your profile on a dating site, then you should change this thought to receive better results. At the end of the day the profile determines your success rate in finding your life partner.  A profile that is not well thought out or not well written will create an image that does not represent you and may give wrong impression.  This in turn may result in fewer responses and decrease the likelihood of meeting a perfect match.

Additionally, having really great pictures when posting and sharing with other users definitely increases your response rate.  Naturally, when you or another user searches Profiles for dating, our eyes tend to wonder towards the profiles with pictures.  This is a natural human phenomenon where most of us like to see descriptions with pictures.

Spend time when preparing and describing yourself on an online dating site. Carefully construct your profile as if you are creating a resume or marketing document.  Never leave an impression where someone reading the profile creates a wrong judgment of you. The profile you create influences the amount of responses that you receive so never ignore such an important step towards meeting that someone special.  Here are some tips to creating a well written profile.  Never exaggerate about yourself, this can come across as being arrogant.  Be compact and highlight specifics that makes you appealing compared to the rest of other profiles on a dating site.  

Another important note that demands a special mention while preparing your profile is to make it attractive. Attractive in the sense that it should have an appeal where the person would like to make contact, have a sense of humour and perhaps share a funny story.  Use catch phrases and words like great or excellent instead of good.  These are small hints to create a profile that buzzes with enthusiasm and that sets you apart from the rest.